Summary Fresh adults do not realise the gravity of what they are going into
(Web Desk) – With ever evolving societies and cultures, marriages would not stand still and thus the institution has its dymanics changing with the passage of time both in East and the West.
Here are the five mistakes that people can commit and put their marriage in jeopardy:
Married too early
One of the many early 20s problem is that the fresh adults do not realise the gravity of what committing to one person for the rest of your life means.
Falling in love is fun in teenage however, your 20s bridge your ‘stable future’ with your time as a carefree teenager and those who take hastily decisions bear the consequences.
People need to realise that getting your first job does not pronounce ‘get married’ and falling in love again after your teenage unrequited love story does not mean ‘put the ring on her as soon as possible’.
Take your time until you realise this is not today or tomorrow, this is life.
Cheating
Can a marriage stand infidelity? It is extremely individual and relative question but going by the conventions, cheating breaks more marriages than any other reason.
Karan Johar, a popular Indian filmmaker, too cynical about the concept of marriage said that ‘infidelity is already sold out’. He responded to a question about one of his films which was accused of encouraging the said issue by asking how do you sell something that is already sold out.
Reading between the lines you can tell if your spouse is not happy and is seeking affection elsewhere.
Financial woes
Like the above said, financial worries take a toll on the individuals as well as the marriage. If your finances are not going right and your house and family is suffering, it is not a good sign for your marriage.
Brushing it under the carpet for months to come to just support your partner is something that should not be regarded as your responsibility as a partner. It does the opposite actually.
Review your partner’s every move and second check everything, if financial issues are going to go away, this is how.
Too much interference
Unnecessary interference in your partner’s professional life can have her or him draw some distance from you and that might lead to your partner not sharing things with you anymore because it is obvious there is one way that would end.
Giving space and time to self is something we owe to ourselves, let alone do we get that from another person. Encourage your spouse to understand space and interference if you are having issues of sorts.
Just not talking
Sometimes, a marriage seems to be alright to those seeing who are left thinking how great that couple was, I wonder what their life must be at home. Well, there are chances they are not talking to each other at all or they are actually really good as partners.
The former incidence means that there is something wrong with the marriage or a person or both.
If you think, you’ve burnt out whatever it was, rekindle your love, expose yourself to more sources of information because you’d get hit by one thing or the other that’d help you rekindle that romance. An idea, an activity or an inspiration may be?
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